On Sept 10, 2021, I took my husband, Jamie, to the ER 3 min away from our home to get an inhaler/ivermectin for COVID-19. His oxygen sats were in the 80’s and he was rushed to the back. I was asked to leave because he tested positive for COVID-19. They never informed me that I wouldn’t be allowed to see him again.

He was transferred to a hospital 45 min away from our home. He was isolated on the COVID-19 ward, and was not allowed to have visitors. The staff kept saying to facetime/call him, but he didn’t have enough breath support to talk. He texted me the next day and the doc told him he wouldn’t survive. Looking back, the doctors had given up before they even tried to save him.

On 9/11, I went to the hospital for answers; finally the nurse supervisor came outside to talk to me. I asked her about the monocolonal antibodies, Regeneron, where she misinformed me and said that the hospital uses another brand, remdesivir. Remdesivir is an antiviral not antibodies.

On 09/12, i finally heard from a doctor that told me no visitors. On 9/18, Dr. Greenberg called and wouldn’t allow visitors be cause COVID-19 could be transmitted on clothes. By 2021, this myth had been disproven. On 09/19 a.m., my husband texted and was begging me to get him out of the hospital because he was tied up. The nurse told me he had fallen and was restrained. i couldn’t calm him down over the phone.

On Wednesday morning, 09/22 at 7 a.m., Jamie texted me that he was being moved to ICU. When i called the nurse to verify, the nurse was waiting on a decision to be made. At 1:00 p.m., they were still waiting. This was a delay in care. At 3:00 p.m., Jamie texted again and said he was being moved. At 5 p.m., I was notified that he was being placed on a Bipap and would possibly need a ventilator. At 5:30 p.m. in traffic, while on my way to the hospital 45 minutes away from our home, I was called saying they needed to place him on a ventilator and he was refusing until I could get there. All of this could have been streamlined had they let me stay with him/visit from the beginning and if they would not have had a delay in care earlier in the day.

Once he was vented, they would finally allowed me to visit, but only for 2-hour intervals 2 times a day. Initially, he was making progress, then they increased the baricitinib and decreased the steroid. Back and forth with weaning vent, and adding sedative, paralytics. On 10/8 at 3:30 p.m., they called to say that his heart rate was going down and they were required to start CPR. They told me the nurse was placing ice on his body for a fever when she noticed his pulse dropping and she thought it was the ice, not realizing that it was a medical emergency. This was another delay in care.

On 10/10, as i was walking in ICU for visitation, they started CPR again and doc was pressuring me for a DNR. That’s when he told me that the first rule of care is to do no harm and if there is another need for CPR, then he would call time of death after 2 rounds of CPR. I felt the doctors had given up and were wanting us to sign a DNR so they wouldn’t have to keep trying. I later found out that the staff in the ICU at the hospital were mostly traveling nurses with little complex medical experience being unable to care for an ICU patient.

Hospitals were hiring incompetent staff to treat COVID-19 patients, and were receiving the extra incentives from the government for treating COVID-19 patients. Again on 10/13 while i was waiting for his neurology appointment, his pulse started to go down and they started CPR. I had a feeling that the staff lowered his medication because they knew he was brain dead and the medications were keeping him alive. I believe the medications were intentionally lowered while I was present at the hospital to force a need for CPR in front of me for a 2nd time.

Ultimately, my soul-mates’s date of death was 10/13/2021.